I am blessed to feel that my life is wonderful, even though it\u2019s busy and stressful. You know why? Because hard work pays off. When I want something, I dedicate time and effort to obtain it. It\u2019s common sense: If you work for it, you get it. <\/p>\n
The other day I had a conversation with someone who was interested in training at Custom Body Fitness. Let\u2019s call her Penelope. She has lots of things to do, with two sons, a husband, and a job. In fact she would admit to you that she has a very stressful life. However, I have other clients who are in the same boat, yet they make the extra effort that it requires to get the healthy body they want and be happy. <\/p>\n
Penelope told me that her sons are first in her life and that she doesn\u2019t really want to take time from them to exercise. She said this even though she admits that she is not happy being overweight. Of course, I didn\u2019t council her to forsake her loved ones. But it seems to me that often people waste more time surfing the web, watching television, or doing other questionable activities instead of investing time in something that will benefit both their bodies and their minds. <\/p>\n
Talking with Penelope reminded me of a conversation I had with a young man recently. He was confused about life and had some problems. He confided to me that he felt alone and not accepted by his dad. He even started to cry as we were talking and told me something that I will never forget: \u201cI don\u2019t understand; the Bible says that I need to give before I can get, and people say that I need to take care of myself before I can give.\u201d At the time, I told him, \u201cI understand your confusion. The truth is that both are right. You just need to understand it. Before you can give, you have to have it. If you don\u2019t love yourself, you can\u2019t give love others. If you don\u2019t have money, you can\u2019t give it to who needs it. If you don\u2019t feel safe, you can\u2019t make someone else feel safe. Not that we need to be selfish. Care about you, learn, get it, understand it, but once you are blessed, then give it and care about others.\u201d <\/p>\n
So I told Penelope that to be able to give the best to her family, she needed to care of herself a bit more. It wouldn\u2019t do her any good if she only worked like a machine, giving all with no thought to her own self. You have to take care of your health to be able to give the best to your family. And there\u2019s the other concept that a parent needs to set an example for his or her family. Sometimes in my own family, I hear an adult tell a youngster to go to college, and the adult makes excuses that he or she is too old to go back to school. But this is nothing but excuses. Especially in the U.S., age is nothing but a number. If you want people to do something good for themselves or to make the right decisions, be a role model and do something for yourself, so in the future you are not a burden to them.<\/p>\n
To conclude, if you really want it, you can get it. All it takes is an extra effort that, sadly, many won\u2019t do. Invest your time in something that is beneficial for you and get rid of bad habits. There are other people in the same situation or even more difficult situations who are have done it. Help yourself so that you\u2019ll be able to help others. <\/p>\n
Sandro Torres is owner of Custom Body Fitness in Carbondale and Glenwood Springs and author of the book \u201cLose Weight Permanently.\u201d His column appears on the second and fourth Tuesdays of the month in Body & More.<\/p>\n