{"id":1312338,"date":"2019-07-11T22:44:00","date_gmt":"2019-07-12T04:44:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.postindependent.com\/fathers-lessons\/"},"modified":"2019-07-11T22:44:00","modified_gmt":"2019-07-12T04:44:00","slug":"fathers-lessons","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/alwaysmountaintime.com\/kske\/local-news\/fathers-lessons\/","title":{"rendered":"Father\u2019s lessons"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Sometimes the personal overrides the burning political \u2014 just before it doubles back to connect. For me, I reflect on this day of my late father, who would be 94 today had he lived. He was a mentor, a teacher, a counselor and a friend. He taught me values that I continue to strive to uphold: integrity, honesty, fairness to all, courage, unbiased respect for all, care for the environment, care for and engagement in the community, grace and generosity. In fact, in those rare moments I reach beyond my normal slothful greedy self, I can see him.<\/p>\n

He was a member of that \u201cgreatest generation,\u201d barely making it to high school graduation in the early 1940s before rushing to enlist in the Navy and shipped to the Philippines \u201cfor the duration.\u201d So many never returned, so I am a lucky one \u2014 to even exist. He said almost nothing about his war experiences, but his lifetime peace activism spoke volumes.<\/p>\n

Thomas John Hastings became a psychologist and both practiced and taught. His pro bono work was all at the VA in Minneapolis, and he did a lot of it. Like all the peace vets I\u2019ve ever known, his attitude was hate war, despise the chickenhawk politicians who drag us into most of them, and love the veterans.<\/p>\n

Of course today\u2019s polarized conceptually monochromatic political factions cannot abide nuanced thinking like that, so my Dad would be even more out of touch. He was friend to Israeli Jew and Palestinian, and not in a just surficial sense, but in deeper contexts he tried to help me understand, rooted in the long European persecution of Jews that culminated in the sincere attempt by Nazis to hunt and kill every last Jewish man, woman and child; and anchored as well in understanding Palestinian history on that land and persecution in 1948 as hundreds of their villages were destroyed to make way for Israel.<\/p>\n

It was tough to get my father interested in any political candidate, and he never joined a political party. He taught me to be wary of talk and to check out action as speaking loudest. That does tend to give pause to any potential excitement about any candidate for office, though he seemed to vote maybe half third party and half Democratic Party for most of his life. Never Republican. Ever. He had respect for virtually all people but despised the pro-corporate, anti-environment and often unjust actions taken by most elected Republicans. I pretty much agreed with him and was grateful for his tutelage.<\/p>\n

He read voraciously, at least one paper a day, some magazines every week and month, and perhaps one book a week, on average. I appreciate his triangulation of evidence \u2014 he\u2019d factcheck when curious or surprised, a trait I try to emulate.<\/p>\n

My father never once held any ambitions to be wealthy, and gave away a lot. I saw him do that, and I hope I learned.<\/p>\n

One wonders what some fathers teach their sons. \u201cHere\u2019s how you screw the next guy.\u201d \u201cBeating someone is the best satisfaction you can get.\u201d \u201cLying to get ahead is the way of the world.\u201d \u201cDirty tricks are normal. Do them better than anyone else.\u201d \u201cWomen are on this earth for men\u2019s pleasure. Use \u2019em.\u201d \u201cGet ahead and stay ahead. Never stop accumulating.\u201d<\/p>\n

The difference is painful and is on buck-naked display at the highest levels right now. I can hear my father as I listen to the daily news: \u201cCripes! Who raised him?\u201d<\/p>\n

Dr. Tom H. Hastings is PeaceVoice Director and on occasion an expert witness for the defense in court.<\/p>\n

via:: Post Independent<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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