{"id":1318431,"date":"2020-02-26T09:55:08","date_gmt":"2020-02-26T16:55:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.cmt.com\/news\/?p=1818259"},"modified":"2020-02-26T09:55:08","modified_gmt":"2020-02-26T16:55:08","slug":"my-unhappy-hour-with-jessi-alexander","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/alwaysmountaintime.com\/kske\/music-news\/my-unhappy-hour-with-jessi-alexander\/","title":{"rendered":"My Unhappy Hour with Jessi Alexander"},"content":{"rendered":"<div><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/cmt.mtvnimages.com\/uri\/mgid:ao:image:cmt.com:689612?width=1200&amp;height=675&amp;.jpg\" class=\"ff-og-image-inserted\"><\/div>\n<p><span class=\"byline\"> by <span class=\"author\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.cmt.com\/news\/author\/bonaguroa\/\" title=\"Posts by Alison Bonaguro\" rel=\"author\">Alison Bonaguro<\/a><\/span> <span class=\"date\"><br \/>\n17m ago<\/span><br \/>\n<\/span> <\/p>\n<p>What has always lifted me up when it comes Jessi Alexander\u2019s songwriting is the way it brings me down. I think it was Lee Ann Womack who said it best: sad songs make me happy. <\/p>\n<p>So when Alexander and I booked a happy hour hang at Nashville\u2019s Urban Cowboy \u2014 to talk about her new solo album <em>Decatur County Red<\/em>, due out March 27 \u2014 it really turned into the two of us just talking about the how some of the best country songs are about the worst things. And we started in 1974. <\/p>\n<p>CMT.com: <strong>Saddest song ever, whether you wrote it or not?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Alexander: I am such a lover of old country that we could be here for three more hours answering that. But there is an old George Jones song called \u201cThe Grand Tour\u201d that I\u2019ve always loved. He is basically giving the grand tour of a lonely house. It\u2019s a beautifully written, epic song. But another one that wrecks me is Dolly Parton\u2019s \u201cI Will Always Love You\u201d (also from 1974). She nailed it. That feeling of when you know it\u2019s over and it\u2019s done, but you really do still love him.<\/p>\n<div class=\"deferred_content\"> Embedded from <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/9-hBAwaH6CI?feature=oembed\">www.youtube.com<\/a>. <noscript class=\"deferred_content\" data-deferred-info=\"{&quot;type&quot;:&quot;iframe&quot;}\"> <iframe loading=\"lazy\" width=\"500\" height=\"375\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/9-hBAwaH6CI?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture\" allowfullscreen>\t<\/iframe><\/noscript>\n<\/div>\n<p><strong>Is there a song that sad on your new record?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I have to say that I think \u201cDamn Country Music\u201d is my saddest one. Because it\u2019s my story and so many of our stories: you leave your hometown, you quit everything you know, you don\u2019t know anyone here. And I really captured that in the song. For a lot of songwriters I know, they call it a 10-year town. Which is true. I didn\u2019t have a hit until after I\u2019d been here for ten years. And that was hard. Grinding songs out every day and wanting to quit and almost quitting. So \u201cDamn Country Music\u201d is sad because anyone who has loved\/hated Nashville or loved\/hated country music, it\u2019s everything you\u2019ve ever wanted and everything you\u2019ve ever hated at the same time. It kicks your ass. But one little thrill is worth that whole ride. <em>It\u2019ll take you, break you, damn sure make you do things you never thought you\u2019d be doing, damn country music. <\/em>We felt like we had hit the bone marrow of that feeling. <\/p>\n<p>(Tim McGraw recorded Alexander\u2019s song for his album of the same name in 2015.)<\/p>\n<div class=\"deferred_content\"> Embedded from <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/4ad7CIE0j0g?feature=oembed\">www.youtube.com<\/a>. <noscript class=\"deferred_content\" data-deferred-info=\"{&quot;type&quot;:&quot;iframe&quot;}\"> <iframe loading=\"lazy\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/4ad7CIE0j0g?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture\" allowfullscreen>\t<\/iframe><\/noscript>\n<\/div>\n<p><strong>So even though that song is <em>your<\/em> story, it became Tim McGraw\u2019s when he cut it. What does that feel like when you write a song so personal and then give it away?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>It hurts when you have to let them go. But you come to terms with the fact that this is your job. And I take great honor in being a songwriter. There is no better profession. I wasn\u2019t ever a songwriter that wanted to be an artist. I will <em>always<\/em> be a songwriter. I am passionate about helping other artists write their truths. Drawing, crafting, playing piano, playing guitar, knitting, shiplapping walls: I\u2019m just an artist in every extension. It all feels like art to me. I get off on that. Every day is different. <\/p>\n<p><strong>You\u2019ve been at this for about 20 years now. Do you feel like people in Nashville come to you for specifically for those kinds of songs?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Songs like \u201cDamn Country Song,\u201d \u201cDad\u2019s Old Number,\u201d \u201cI Drive Your Truck,\u201d yes. I feel like I\u2019m known for those deep songs. I always need to write about grief, but it\u2019s hard to. Sometimes I also feel like the odds and luck and God and song gods and the universe come together, and songs like those get to go out and do what they\u2019re supposed to do: move people and touch people. <\/p>\n<p><strong>I agree 100 percent. I am moved and touched by the deep songs so much more so than, say, a song about a Friday night on a dropped tailgate down by the riverbank. Because real life is hard. And I relate to that. Do you think that\u2019s just kind of our female perspective on the world?<br \/><\/strong><br \/>I think it\u2019s more that vulnerability is really attractive to me as a songwriter. People ask me what makes a good song and I say that it\u2019s the raw truth of something. When you find a way to say something really well, that\u2019s a real vulnerable statement. As long as you\u2019re telling some kind of real truth. That to me makes a great song. So on this record, I indulged in some raw, lonesome, yearning, acting-my-age songs. <\/p>\n<p><strong>Acting your age? As is, grown women with families might want to hear songs that are worlds away from the ones that single girls in their 20s want to hear?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Yes. I looked at people my age (43) and wanted to tell those stories. Women who are struggling with marriages. And then babies. And then the babies are growing up and now what? All of that. \u201cMama Drank\u201d sounds like it might be funny, but there\u2019s not really a funny element to it. Loretta (Lynn) was so good at those twists, like \u201cDon\u2019t Come Home a Drinkin\u2019 (With Lovin\u2019 on Your Mind).\u201d It was funny, but if you dissect it, she was dealing with real woman life shit. In my mind, everybody has struggles. <\/p>\n<p><strong>There have been a handful of songs like that one in 1967. But we could certainly use a few more. If you had to give that kind of country a name, like Bro Country, what would you call it?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>The Workin\u2019 Mom Blues. All of those feelings we all have. Like you\u2019re sucking at your job because you\u2019re trying to be there for your kids, but then you\u2019re sucking with your kids because you\u2019re trying to be there for your job. And wondering, \u201cWho am I now? Who are we in our marriage?\u201d I haven\u2019t heard anyone in country sing to those women in a while. I wanted to write a grown-woman record. <\/p>\n<p><strong>I think I speak for all grown women when I say thank God for that. Do you have some kind of foolproof approach to writing songs like these? <\/strong><\/p>\n<p>My hippie dippy answer is that as an artist, I was given a voice to sing and an ear for song ideas. And I am genuinely curious about people. And I have a natural ability to put words together. Even before I was writing songs, I was writing poetry. For me, songs sometimes just kind of fall out of the sky. Like the melody for Miley Cyrus\u2019 \u201cThe Climb\u201d literally came to me while I was driving down the road. God whispered that in my head. <\/p>\n<p><strong>That can\u2019t be all there is to it, though, otherwise anyone who listens for God\u2019s whispers would be a Grammy-nominated songwriter. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Well, I also look at songwriting with a very blue-collar mindset. I go to work every day so that even when I <em>don\u2019t<\/em> have inspiration that day, I can fall back on my craft. My muscles are strong. Some songs do fall out of the sky, but then I\u2019m the one who has to do that hard work to follow through and write that song.<\/p>\n<div class=\"deferred_content\"> Embedded from <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/gp5Ih64f9oI?feature=oembed\">www.youtube.com<\/a>. <noscript class=\"deferred_content\" data-deferred-info=\"{&quot;type&quot;:&quot;iframe&quot;}\"> <iframe loading=\"lazy\" width=\"500\" height=\"375\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/gp5Ih64f9oI?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture\" allowfullscreen>\t<\/iframe><\/noscript>\n<\/div>\n<p><em>Decatur County Red <\/em>Track List:<\/p>\n<p>1. \u201cDecatur County Red\u201d (Jessi Alexander, Jon Randall)<br \/>2. \u201cMama Drank\u201d (Alexander, Randall)<br \/>3. \u201cDamn Country Music\u201d (Alexander, Cary Barlowe, Josh Thompson)<br \/>4. \u201cI Should Probably Go Now\u201d (Alexander)<br \/>5. \u201cMy Problem Is You (Alexander, Randall)<br \/>6. \u201cCountry Music Made Me Do It\u201d feat. Randy Houser (Alexander, TJ Osborne, John Osborne)<br \/>7. \u201cLonely Out Of Me\u201d (Alexander)<br \/>8. \u201cHow I\u2019m Going Out\u201d (Alexander, Randall)<\/p>\n<div class=\"author\">\n<div class=\"description\"> Alison makes her living loving country music. She&#8217;s based in Chicago, but she&#8217;s always leaving her heart in Nashville. <\/div>\n<p> <a href=\"http:\/\/www.twitter.com\/alisonbonaguro\" target=\"_BLANK\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">@alisonbonaguro<\/a> <\/div>\n<p> <a href=\"http:\/\/www.cmt.com\/news\/1818259\/my-unhappy-hour-with-jessi-alexander\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">via:: CMT News<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>by Alison Bonaguro 17m ago What has always lifted me up when it comes Jessi Alexander\u2019s songwriting is the way it brings me down. I think it was Lee Ann Womack who said it best: sad songs make me happy. So when Alexander and I booked a happy hour hang at Nashville\u2019s Urban Cowboy \u2014 [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[159],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-1318431","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","6":"category-music-news"},"acf":[],"publishpress_future_action":{"enabled":false,"date":"2026-06-15 08:17:28","action":"change-status","newStatus":"draft","terms":[],"taxonomy":"category","extraData":[]},"publishpress_future_workflow_manual_trigger":{"enabledWorkflows":[]},"distributor_meta":false,"distributor_terms":false,"distributor_media":false,"distributor_original_site_name":"KSKE Ski Country","distributor_original_site_url":"https:\/\/alwaysmountaintime.com\/kske","push-errors":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/alwaysmountaintime.com\/kske\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1318431","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/alwaysmountaintime.com\/kske\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/alwaysmountaintime.com\/kske\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/alwaysmountaintime.com\/kske\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/alwaysmountaintime.com\/kske\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1318431"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/alwaysmountaintime.com\/kske\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1318431\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/alwaysmountaintime.com\/kske\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1318431"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/alwaysmountaintime.com\/kske\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1318431"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/alwaysmountaintime.com\/kske\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1318431"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}