{"id":801653,"date":"2019-11-22T10:43:48","date_gmt":"2019-11-22T17:43:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.summitdaily.com\/?p=374848"},"modified":"2019-11-22T10:43:48","modified_gmt":"2019-11-22T17:43:48","slug":"are-your-children-prepared-for-difficult-social-situations","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/alwaysmountaintime.com\/ksmt\/local-news\/are-your-children-prepared-for-difficult-social-situations\/","title":{"rendered":"Are your children prepared for difficult social situations?"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"p402_hide\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/cdn.summitdaily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2019\/11\/IMG_3948.jpg\" alt class=\"wp-image-374849\" srcset=\"https:\/\/cdn.summitdaily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2019\/11\/IMG_3948.jpg 828w, https:\/\/cdn.summitdaily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2019\/11\/IMG_3948-300x246.jpg 300w, https:\/\/cdn.summitdaily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2019\/11\/IMG_3948-768x631.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 828px) 100vw, 828px\"><figcaption><strong>YESS members, pictured here, spoke about the dangers of youth tobacco use at a recent Summit Board of County Commissioners meeting.<\/strong><br \/><em>Courtesy Photo<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p>How can local parents ensure their children\u2019s perceptions of normal, healthy behaviors aren\u2019t being skewed by visitors who are partying on vacation?<\/p>\n<p>The resort town atmosphere is just one of many reasons parents need to be thoughtful and deliberate when talking to their children about tough subjects like alcohol and drug use. By planning ahead for difficult conversations and scenarios, parents build trusting relationships with their children while also preparing them to make informed decisions for themselves.<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re not sure about how, when or where to talk to your children about drug and alcohol use, here\u2019s a helpful list to get started.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>It\u2019s never too early to talk to your children<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>The first step is to simply bring up the topic, said 17-year-old Summit High School senior Anna Tomlinson, a member of the Youth Empowerment Society of Summit (YESS), a group of high school students that advocates for positive, healthy social behaviors.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>\u201cSome of these topics are stigmatized and may be awkward to talk about at first, but they are important and necessary to talk about,\u201d she said. \u201cSpeaking about these topics will help the youth enter the \u2018real world\u2019 better prepared and more confident.\u201d&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Elizabeth Edgar, Summit School District\u2019s mental and physical health coordinator, said it\u2019s also important to talk to children about substances before there\u2019s an issue.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cIt\u2019s a lot more difficult to have the conversation for the first time when you\u2019re in that parent mode of having just caught your child doing something,\u201d she said.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Preteen years are when children begin to figure out their place in the world, according to Speak Now Colorado, the state Office of Behavioral Health\u2019s website designed to help parents have important conversations with their children. Tips for parents of preteens (9 to 13 years old) include the following:&nbsp;<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Start the conversation early<\/strong>. Be understanding and don\u2019t be quick to judge them if they tell you they\u2019ve made questionable decisions.&nbsp;<\/li>\n<li><strong>Listen. <\/strong>It\u2019s important that kids feel they can give an honest opinion rather than what they think you want to hear.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Establish clear rules.<\/strong> Encourage positive behaviors, listen to them, but also enforce consequences.&nbsp;<\/li>\n<li><strong>Role play. <\/strong>Talk through scenarios and help them find a way to say \u201cno.\u201d<\/li>\n<li><strong>Focus on positive messages. <\/strong>Use facts, not fear, and focus conversations on healthy alternatives and positive outcomes.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Talk about friends. <\/strong>Get to know your children\u2019s friends and promote healthy friendships.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Separate reality from fiction.<\/strong> Use characters in movies, TV shows, movies and news to discuss real-life consequences and impacts of alcohol and drug use.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Promote self confidence. <\/strong>Give kids the opportunity to make decisions; praise them for a job well done; say \u201cI love you.\u201d<\/li>\n<li><strong>Keep your relationship strong<\/strong>. Take interest in your kids\u2019 interests; spend time with them; plan activities for the family.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>Keep the conversation open and ongoing<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s important to have an open dialogue with your children so they know that it\u2019s OK to talk about these subjects, said Sarah E. Vaine, assistant county manager for Summit County Government. Before her role with the county, Vaine spent 20 years working with adolescents and families as a therapist in private practice and as CEO of the Summit Community Care Clinic. She said it\u2019s essential that parents put the emphasis on inquiry rather than lecture. So, instead of accusing children or telling them what they should or shouldn\u2019t be doing, ask them questions such as:<\/p>\n<p>\u201cHave you ever been anywhere where there\u2019s an adult who was drunk? How did that make you feel?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>By talking about these subjects regularly, Vaine said conversations happen organically and never feel like lectures. When this consistent communication occurs, youth absorb the information and understand it better than they would from a one-time lecture.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cCreate a safe and welcoming environment where they feel comfortable expressing their opinions, even if they contradict with yours,\u201d Tomlinson said. \u201cYouth are not taught how to face these difficult situations in school. We can not be expected to know the information unless given the opportunity to think of possible solutions through an open conversation.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Talk through specific scenarios&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>In Summit County, there are plenty of opportunities that parents can turn into teaching moments for their children. Because recreational marijuana and alcohol are legal for those over the age of 21, local youth see substance use frequently in the community \u2014 especially in such a tourist-driven market.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>\u201cWe want to build their critical thinking skills so when parents aren\u2019t around kids can reflect on what\u2019s going on and make smart choices,\u201d said Edgar said.<\/p>\n<p>When a customer at the cafe where your son works asks where to buy the best weed, or a young adult on vacation invites your daughter to a party, you want your kids to be prepared (see factbox). That\u2019s why using teaching moments in real life \u2014 like when you smell marijuana on the chairlift or see someone who\u2019s had too much to drink out at a restaurant \u2014 to keep the dialogue going about difficult subjects and help your children understand how to respond when they\u2019re faced with tough decisions. Use these incidents as opportunities to ask open-ended questions about their ideas, opinions and experiences:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>What do you think about marijuana?<\/li>\n<li>That person has had too much to drink. How do you think the people at his table feel? What do you think the server should do about it?<\/li>\n<li>Have you ever been at a party where people are drinking or using drugs? How did you handle it?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>Consider other factors<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Therese White, a social worker at Summit School District, said if and when a student is using substances, there could be something else going on.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>\u201cOften time, there\u2019s a dual diagnosis with substance use \u2014 the student could be using because of ADHD, stressors in life, depression or something else,\u201d she said. \u201cThere could be reasons why they\u2019re self-medicating that should be explored further.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.summitdaily.com\/news\/are-your-children-prepared-for-difficult-social-situations-sponsored\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">via:: Summit Daily<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>YESS members, pictured here, spoke about the dangers of youth tobacco use at a recent Summit Board of County Commissioners meeting.Courtesy Photo How can local parents ensure their children\u2019s perceptions of normal, healthy behaviors aren\u2019t being skewed by visitors who are partying on vacation? 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