{"id":2419490,"date":"2018-12-31T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2018-12-31T07:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.aspentimes.com\/?p=291747"},"modified":"2018-12-31T00:00:00","modified_gmt":"2018-12-31T07:00:00","slug":"guest-commentary-when-you-die-by-suicide-you-dont-end-your-pain-you-transfer-it","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/alwaysmountaintime.com\/kspn\/local-news\/guest-commentary-when-you-die-by-suicide-you-dont-end-your-pain-you-transfer-it\/","title":{"rendered":"Guest commentary: When you die by suicide, you don\u2019t end your pain. You transfer it"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"STND-STND BodyText DropCap\">On the third Tuesday of each month, Bethany Lutheran Church in Cherry Hills Village hosts a meeting that no one wants to attend.<\/p>\n<p class=\"STND-STND BodyText\">I visited the church in October, shortly after dusk. A sign pointed me to a meeting room in the back of the building, at the end of a dark hallway.<\/p>\n<p class=\"STND-STND BodyText\">Inside the room, two dozen women and men sat quietly around a conference table. They each introduced themselves and then shared the names of their children \u2014 a son or a daughter who had died by suicide.<\/p>\n<p class=\"STND-STND BodyText\">When my turn came, I talked about my cousin Melissa, who was like a sister to me. She killed herself on New Year&#8217;s Day in 2015, at the age of 35.<\/p>\n<p class=\"STND-STND BodyText\">Huddled there in a circle of grief, I knew we were not alone. Colorado lost 81 children and 1,094 adults to suicide last year.<\/p>\n<p class=\"STND-STND BodyText\">My family and I will be tortured for the rest of our lives by our failure to prevent Melissa&#8217;s death. There&#8217;s nothing I could tell her parents, or those in the church that night, to ease their pain.<\/p>\n<div id=\"single-mid-script\" class=\"p402_hide\">\n<h2>Recommended Stories For You<\/h2>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<p class=\"STND-STND BodyText\">But the parents at Bethany Lutheran weren&#8217;t looking to me for solace. They just wanted to know how they could make a difference \u2014 how they could spare other families the anguish they&#8217;ve suffered.<\/p>\n<p class=\"STND-STND BodyText\">Colorado&#8217;s next legislative session, which begins Friday, can offer some answers. At Mental Health Colorado, we&#8217;re bringing a broad range of proposals to state lawmakers.<\/p>\n<p class=\"STND-STND BodyText\">Among other requests, we&#8217;re asking the General Assembly and the governor to:<\/p>\n<p class=\"STND-STND BodyText ListBullet\">Fund the Zero Suicide framework, training health care, education and law enforcement personnel to spot the early warning signs of suicidal ideation.<\/p>\n<p class=\"STND-STND BodyText ListBullet\">Strengthen the enforcement of mental health parity laws, requiring public and private insurers to provide sufficient coverage for the treatment of mental-health and substance-use disorders.<\/p>\n<p class=\"STND-STND BodyText ListBullet\">Create a statewide bed tracking system, enabling Coloradans to find the nearest available psychiatric or substance-use facility.<\/p>\n<p class=\"STND-STND BodyText ListBullet\">Adopt a &#8220;red flag&#8221; law, allowing judges in certain circumstances to order the temporary removal of weapons from individuals deemed a significant danger to themselves or others.<\/p>\n<p class=\"STND-STND BodyText ListBullet\">Expand the School Health Professional Grant Program, placing nurses, counselors, social workers, and psychologists in more schools.<\/p>\n<p class=\"STND-STND BodyText ListBullet\">Boost funding for school-based health centers, particularly in rural Colorado.<\/p>\n<p class=\"STND-STND BodyText ListBullet\">Increase access to housing and supportive services for individuals with serious mental-health or substance-use disorders.<\/p>\n<p class=\"STND-STND BodyText\">It&#8217;s an ambitious agenda. And with only 120 days until legislators adjourn, we don&#8217;t have much time to enact it.<\/p>\n<p class=\"STND-STND BodyText\">But for thousands of families like mine, help can&#8217;t come soon enough.<\/p>\n<p class=\"STND-STND BodyText Tagline\">Andrew Romanoff is the president and CEO of Mental Health Colorado (www.mentalhealthcolorado.org), the state&#8217;s leading advocate for the prevention and treatment of mental health and substance-use disorders. Romanoff served as speaker of the Colorado House of Representatives.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.aspentimes.com\/opinion\/columns\/guest-commentary-when-you-die-by-suicide-you-dont-end-your-pain-you-transfer-it\/\" target=\"_blank\">via:: The Aspen Times<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>On the third Tuesday of each month, Bethany Lutheran Church in Cherry Hills Village hosts a meeting that no one wants to attend. I visited the church in October, shortly after dusk. A sign pointed me to a meeting room in the back of the building, at the end of a dark hallway. 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